Being with someone who doesn’t respect you can be psychologically devastating – or a great motivation for change.
One woman found out just what she was made of when her boyfriend told her her behavior earlier that day at a tailgate they were attending “was disgusting and unattractive.”
That’s when the 18-year-old Iowa State University student Miranda Baker underwent a dramatic weight loss.
The pair even had lunch with Baker’s parents that day, but it was later in the evening at her boyfriend’s fraternity formal that he insulted her behavior (whatever it was).
And in a matter of minutes, she lost 200 pounds of pure jerk after breaking up with him and leaving the party to spend time with friends.
On Nov. 12, she tweeted her “before” and “after” photos along with the caption:
“After getting called disgusting last night, I successfully dropped 200lbs!! (Before and after pics).”
Baker cropped her boyfriend out of her dramatic “weight loss” photo.
The pair had been seeing each other for roughly 5 weeks, according to an interview with The Daily Mail.
It’s hard to believe anyone would have the nerve to say that to a woman’s face.
As you might imagine, the boyfriend was none too pleased to be dumped. So he blamed Baker. She said her now ex-boyfriend then chastised her over the phone.
“…about an hour later he called me, yelling at me to apologize for leaving him! I said I will not apologize for leaving you after you called me disgusting and unattractive.”
Apparently, Baker’s ex does not take rejection well.
While the Tweet went viral in 2017, it’s now making the rounds again as relationship advice. Baker has since deleted the Tweet.
However, in a matter of days, it got 300,00 likes and more than 33,000 retweets, so now it’s firmly a part of Internet lore.
What’s also unclear is what transpired earlier that evening that elicited the comment, it hardly matters. It was a cruel thing to say and Baker had every right to break up with a boyfriend she thought was unkind.
And she certainly didn’t owe him an apology for breaking up with him!
Her successful “weight loss journey” inspired other women to post empowering stories of leaving toxic partners as well. And people were loving it.
Baker’s Tweet isn’t the first of it’s kind, however.
It’s a diet trend we can certainly get behind – and, of course, it works both ways.
While many people – men and women alike – are tempted to stay and try to fix relationships that make them feel bad, it’s often the case that these moments of cruelty aren’t one-off displays.
Toxic relationships can affect both your physical and mental health – not to mention they’re a waste of time. After all, there are other people out there who know how to treat a partner with respect.
It’s important to realize that no matter how much you love someone, being treated badly is unacceptable. But depending on your self-esteem you may or may not realize this or accept that a situation is worthy of intervention.
But no matter how much you love someone, if they don’t love you back with respect, it’s not a healthy relationship and you CAN do better.
Baker’s Tweet reminds us all of exactly that.
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