Donโt think social media has anything to do with your romantic relationships? Think again.
Social media can be incredibly invasive. You can use your smartphone to cyber-stalk your partner to your heartโs content โ and of course, youโre going to find something from the past, like an ex-girlfriend or even something heโs liked โ that you donโt agree with.
If you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner, there are a few social media boundaries to implement. Read on to learn what they are.
1. Donโt post everything online
When youโre in love, you want to show off โ itโs just natural. But your partner might be way more of a private person than you are. Maybe he doesnโt want you to share that selfie of the pair of you lying in bed together. Take a rain check before you start posting stuff to check youโre both on the same page.
2. Remember that life exists beyond your phones
Most of us couldnโt imagine having to give up our phones for even a day. But mobile devices can put a divider between couples. When youโre with your partner, you need to make sure youโre prioritizing him over your social media updates. Try arranging a weekly no-phone date where you can simply enjoy each otherโs company.
3. Donโt cyber-stalk your partner
You donโt need to be a genius to understand why cyber-stalking your partner is a terrible idea. Letting your other half have his privacy is important. Thereโs no reason why you need to read his every message to his mates or his mum, after all. If you genuinely canโt trust the guy, you need to consider why youโre even with him in the first place.
4. Donโt cross the line online
There are plenty of rules you might have in your relationship: donโt flirt with other people, donโt say disrespectful things behind your partnerโs back, and so on. These rules often get forgotten when you use social media, but theyโre just as important. If you wouldnโt do it in real life, donโt do it online.
5. Set texting expectations
It sounds a little silly, but the frequency that your partner texts you back is actually a very common cause for disagreement. Some people use their phones more than others, which means theyโll naturally be quicker text-backers. Itโs best to set expectations early in the relationship instead of silently feeling disappointed that your partner only texts you twice a day, or overwhelmed that he texts you twice an hour.
6. Communicate
Perhaps the most important point of all is this: communicate with your partner if somethingโs wrong. Maybe one person embarrassed the other online without intending to. If thatโs the case, talk about it calmly to prevent the situation from happening again. Equally, if you come across something โfishyโ online, donโt fester over it โ just reach out to your partner and ask for an explanation. Jumping to conclusions will get you nowhere.
If you want to prevent social media from damaging your relationship, start with the tips in this article.
Thereโs plenty more advice to be found online if you think you need a little more guidance. If you learn better by listening, check out the video below by KayxSasha for more social media and dating dos and donโts.
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