When you’re sitting too elegantly or too stiff, it will be hard for men to approach you. This type of sitting position comes off as too arrogant. There’s confidence and there’s arrogance and no one wants to be with someone who’s arrogant.

So loosen up and smile!

When you hunch down your shoulders, you make yourself feel and look small. You’re telling men that you’re insignificant, unworthy, and insecure. This sitting position tells men you are a weak woman.

There are men who like that but you don’t want to be around them.

While sitting down, your body language has to have balance. It needs to show that you’re a strong woman who knows herself and it also shows your feminine side. Striking a balance is showing off the best of both worlds. Sit up straight and relax your shoulders and your face.

And always remember to smile.

There’s a modeling technique called the “smize.” If you can’t smile with your lips, then smile with your eyes. When you do the “smize,” you create an intrigue within you that can draw men to you.

Men love smiles and when you have an intriguing “smize,” they will be more attracted to you.

By all means, smile. Although, there is such a thing as smiling too much that it becomes unnatural. Smiling is not bad but when you force yourself to smile all the time.

It does come off as desperate and trying too hard.

When you’ve been approached by a man you like, you want to keep their attention on you. What can you do? You can touch your hair. Tuck a stray hair behind your ear ever so slightly.

If your hair is down and resting on the front of your shoulder, flip it back slowly and let your fingers go down your neck.

Now, you need to be careful with playing with your hair. If you’re nervous, leave your hair alone. If you play with your hair nervously, the man you’re talking to will pick up on this and might lose interest.

Or maybe they won’t mind but playing with your hair nervously can make you lose focus and let you stumble through your words. If you’re nervous, stop, take a deep breath, and smile at him.

Okay, this one is a little tricky. If you do this the wrong way, it’s going to look very awkward. But if you do it right, it’s going to make you look even more intriguing. Always do this move, placing your hand on your chest, while you’re reacting to what he’s saying. Maybe he’s saying something that requires a shocked or surprised reaction, feel free to do this move.

Any move that makes you touch the body parts he’s attracted to will keep you in his mind all the time.

While you’re talking, touch the inside of your wrist almost like an afterthought. Don’t play with your bracelet or watch because that could look like a nervous tick. Slightly graze your wrist for a second. That will get the gears in his mind going and try to decipher what your move could mean. Be careful not to do it several times during the whole time you’re together.

Do it strategically and subtly.

Any woman who wears high heels regularly knows how to walk with a natural hip swing. That natural hip swing walk will showcase your attractive and feminine self through your hips that men’s eyes are drawn towards. Walking with your hips swinging naturally gives off elegance, grace, and femininity that most men love. If you don’t have that natural hip swing walk, you can practice with your heels at home.

Practice in front of the mirror so that you can see what you’re doing right and what needs to be improved. It’s going to look awkward at first but, with practice, you’re going to get the hang of it, even when you’re not wearing heels.

When you look around nervously or you look like you’re looking for or chasing after someone, you can look desperate to men. Sometimes, it’s not about looking for someone but you just want to look at people and what they’re doing. If you’re going to look around your environment, do it subtly. And don’t do it often.

And on the opposite, don’t stare at people, too. Just glance at the scenes around you and do it with a slight move of your head.

This is a little tricky because you want to be strategic about this part but you also want it to be subtle. First of all, touch his arm and his back when you’re doing the talking. Touch him lightly like an accidental graze so it shouldn’t last more than two seconds.

Two seconds is enough to for him to notice the move and make him want for more.

When attracting the men that you like, it’s always best to check the tone of your voice. Is it too soft-spoken or is it too aggressive? Try practicing by recording your own voice. This will make you more aware of your voice and how you speak.

Find that balance of elegance and femininity.

Be aware of your actions, your body language, and the tone of your voice. Being aware is the only way you can learn to strike a balance. If you’re too soft-spoken, practice being more assertive. And if you’re aggressive, learn to tone it down a bit. Not everyone is going to be the same so you have to practice awareness so you find that right balance within you.

It’s very easy to adopt bad habits. Being aware of these habits can help you improve.

Anna Bey is a British influencer, author, and founder of the School of Affluence, a luxury lifestyle and etiquette academy. She’s gained popularity where she shares her knowledge and tips on high society living, luxury travel, and fashion.

In addition to her online presence, she has also authored a book, “The Glam Guide: How to Be Chic, Classy and Elegant,” which provides advice on howto improve one’s overall image. Bey’s goal is to empower and inspire people from all backgrounds to live their best lives through the art of elegance, manners and style.