Co-parenting is difficult, especially when both spouses find new partners. Co-parents face a lot of possible miscommunication, arguments, and challenges. It’s important that both co-parents want what’s best for their child and that they should work as a team. Even when couples remember this, they might think that co-parenting is impossible.
“This photo was taken 24 hours after I gave birth to my second baby boy, Waylon.
The guy on the left is my ex, the 3-year-old holding his hand is my first child, Cade, we had together.
The guy on the right holding my sons’ Right hand is my fiancé, and the newborn baby Boy is our child.
Just because a relationship doesn’t work out between two people DOES NOT mean the relationship with the child shouldn’t. I would never take that away. Every child needs a mother and father figure and my son Cade just happens to get some extra love.
Be civil and co-parent. If you made the child together it’s both your job to raise the child.”
Madison Holley shares her difficulties learning how to co-parent her 3-year-old son Cade.
She admits that breaking up with her ex Tyler was very difficult for her mentally. They had been having issues agreeing on things even before they broke up. After the break-up, they would hardly even speak to each other.
“[My new partner] Cody used to message Tyler for me, believe it or not.”
Around six months after the break-up, Tyler started dating a woman named Karin Gray. This is the woman who helped Tyler and Madison repair their broken relationship for the sake of their son Cade. It became possible for everyone to focus on their little baby boy and move forward.
“Meeting Karin was when we both became happy again. I think meeting new people who put our child first and respected that we had Cade together no matter what and us both being happy again helped,” Holley says.
“She was the one who suggested we all sit down and put all our differences aside,” Holley continues. “Leave the past in the past and everything that hurt or upset any one of the four of us resolve right then and there, so that the future was nothing but positive and full of love from the four of us for Cade!”
After the talk they had together, they all shared an Easter Dinner at Tyler’s place.
Madison surprised herself by bonding with Karin on her own. The two of them are now close friends. She was also pretty lucky with her new partner Cody. The man was determined to be a good role model for the kids and make things work.
According to Madison, Cody is very calm which helps keep the peace among the four co-parents. Even though Cody is a wonderful mediator, the complicated co-parenting works because they have all agreed it’s important for Cade that they all work together.
“”The bottom line was we are all gonna be around each other forever as Cade grows up,” Holley says, “and we all wanted to be part of it, so for Cade we all need to do it together.”
Madison took this photo shortly after she gave birth to her second son (Cody is the father.) As the little group walked out of the hospital hand-in-hand, the mother couldn’t help but capture the photo.
She shared on Facebook via Love What Matters on October 3 where it quickly went viral. The outpouring of positivity was alarming considering the average comment section on the internet.
Most of the people commenting on the post say things like “that’s how it should be” and “It’s mature to put the child first.” There are a few negative comments, but they do not really bother Madison.
Madison has some advice for co-parents.
“Just put your differences aside and don’t let your past or the reason why you broke up effect the child in any way.”
