Mother Heather Boyer received an interesting text recently about someone her daughter was dating.
She confessed that after reading it, it took her a while to figure out how to respond. We don’t blame her and once you see the text you’ll understand why.
She decided to share her response with Love What Matters, and we have to say, it is extremely touching. Although she didn’t actually send the response back to the original person who sent her the message, the whole thing really makes you think.
Honestly, it is a story best told in Heather’s own words, so without further ado, we begin…
“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text …’ I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?’
It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that ‘may not know’.”
“Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter.”
“I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.”
“I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat… not to a club or partying on the weekends.”
“I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.”
“He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not.”
“So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.”
Heather is so right.
A person should never be defined by their skin color or appearance, but instead by what’s on the inside. It’s how you treat others, the respect you show, and all the amazing parts of your personality that truly make you, you. Not the superficial things.
When looking for someone to date, the most important consideration should always be whether that someone is a good person or not.
It’s definitely amazing that Heather’s daughter found someone who treats her like she deserves to be treated.
The two look very happy together, and at the end of the day, what other people think really doesn’t matter that much. When you are laying there with the person you love in your arms, all the negativity from all the naysayers just seems to fade away…
Check out the beautiful photo of the happy couple below.
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