Have you ever wondered exactly what it is that men look for in a partner? No, not just the superficial qualities, like someone โhotโ or someone who loves to cook for himโI mean the real, deep down qualities they want out of a serious partner.
Fortunately, the EZ Dating Coach (aka Mike Goldstein) went ahead and did some helpful research for us all. Over the years, he polled two thousand men over 40 to find out what these grown men really want. And he didnโt let anyone take the easy way out, he grilled them to get some deep answers.
Men want to feel needed.
These days, many of us ladies are killing the game all on our own. We love our kids and weโre great moms, we spent our younger years working our way up our careers and now weโve achieved success, and weโve got plenty of great girlfriends to lend support. But, EZ Dating Coach says, where does that leave our potential man friend?
Mike Goldstein explains that men need to feel needed. They have been conditioned to want to provide for you. But, this does not necessarily mean that you have to quit your job and lose all your hard earned independence. Mike suggests simple fixes, such as asking your man to grab you a glass of water so he can feel like heโs helping you out.
Men need to feel appreciated.
When you finally do meet that special guy who changes your life and helps you fall back in love, make sure he knows it! An strong partnership involves both people supporting each other in ways big and small. Whether itโs picking your kids up from school or paying for dinner, our EZ Dating Coach reminds you that you should be sure to let your man know that you are grateful for all the good he does.
Accept your love for who he is.
Mike says that neither of you should have to compromise exactly who you are just to fit the relationship. But, if you want to have a happy love story, you need to look past the superficial imperfections we are all bound to have, and focus on how much you love their whole person. Mike explains:
โImagine you get to be exactly who you are, and the other person goes, โMan! I love this person exactly as they are. They need to feel that. And If the man feels that heโs fully accepted, warts and all, heโs going to come towards you like no man has ever come towards you.โ
By accepting your guy, and by letting him know how much you love all of him, you open the door for a strong bond that doesnโt get bogged down by insecurity. And, when you accept your man, chances are heโll accept you in total right back. Focus on giving one another reassurance.
Boundaries.
Communication can feel scary, but it shouldnโt be hard with the right partner. Mike says that the right guy will just want to make you happy, so of course he wants to hear exactly what works for you!
Sometimes communicating your boundaries comes in the form of telling your man to stop doing that one thing that annoys you. Other times itโs just suggesting a new idea instead of the old date night rituals. Mike explains that your dream man will want to hear these suggestions, and that communicating yourself will lead to him accepting you completely as you are.
Turns out, the things men want are pretty simple.
In summary, your man wants to feel needed, appreciated, accepted, and to have established boundaries. And itโs not just men, everyone needs these things to feel like they are in a thriving, healthy relationship. So go ahead, tell that cutie that you love how he helps your kids with their homework, and then ask him to go rock climbing instead of your typical dinner date!
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