Everyone has a different personality, and for some, it can be tough to understand introverts.
While all introverts are different, many do the following things. Not sure if you’re an introvert? Keep reading to find out.
You cancel plans or at least look forward to someone else canceling them.
Introverts aren’t being rude and definitely don’t want to offend someone. It just takes you extra energy to spend so much time with people. Too much stimulation drains you completely, both mentally and physically.
Being alone helps you recharge your energy levels.
As an introvert, you love having time to yourself. The time spent focusing on yourself lets you think and gives you the chance to recharge. You need this alone time to get your energy back after a night out or a day where you are forced to make small talk.
You take your time in the bathroom to get alone time.
Alone time is so important to recharge that you will get it wherever you can. Whether you work or go to school, you find yourself spending a few extra seconds in there. This is the only quiet area where you can get away from people and recharge as needed.
You like to hang out in cafes – without interacting with others.
Whether your preferred activity is reading, writing, drawing, or something else, you enjoy occasionally doing so in a café or other area that is filled with people. This lets you enjoy the world and get a change of scenery, but without the need to interact with others. Those in cafes assume you don’t want to talk. Of course, you also love working on these same things in the privacy of your home, where there is no risk of interaction.
You don’t answer phone calls and prefer to talk in person.
When we talk on the phone, we miss out on clues like gestures and facial expressions. Many introverts hate talking on the phone for this very reason and will put off making phone calls or avoid answering them. For you, a phone call is incredibly stressful, so unless it is urgent, you will wait and talk in person.
You view small talk as the enemy or at least a necessary evil.
As an introvert, small talk leads to nervousness and anxiety. Unimportant topics, like the weather, are not interesting to you and can make an OK conversation turn into a horrible one. You prefer deep conversations that are actually stimulating.
Getting a haircut is a chore to be avoided because of the small talk.
Your desire to avoid small talk at all costs extends to areas of your life others don’t realize. You wait for weeks or months to get your hair cut, for example, because you don’t want to have to make small talk while having it cut.
You prefer to travel by yourself than with others.
Some people can’t imagine going on a vacation by themselves, but this is a dream come true for introverts. As someone who thinks and observes, you will get the most out of your vacation if you go by yourself. The exception will be traveling with your closest friend or significant other, who understands your personality and needs.
Your best friend is an extrovert.
It makes zero sense to some people that an extrovert and an introvert can be best friends, but you prove that this is the perfect match. Your personalities complement each other and your best friend will understand your need to have alone time. Talking to your best friend isn’t as draining as small talk because your friend understands you.
You choose your friends carefully.
Whether it is finding a best friend or just any friendship, you are highly selective about who you will spend time with. You choose people who will not drain your energy. Instead, the meaningful, intimate conversations you have with your chosen friends help you feel alive.
Learning about your introversion makes it easier to embrace. Not everyone needs to be extroverted all the time, so enjoy your life.
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(h/t) Thought Catalog; featured image credit: Quick Base
