Movies often depict bartenders dancing on bars or polishing glasses while listening to everyone’s problems. In reality, most are skilled professionals focused on providing great service. Even with good tipping and avoiding obvious mistakes, some polite-seeming habits can still annoy them. Here’s what to avoid and how to be a better customer.
Asking them to do a shot with you
Bartenders are working and often have rules against drinking on the job. They need to stay professional and focused during their shift. Instead, add the cost of the shot to their tip or offer to buy them a drink for after their shift. This way, you show your appreciation without putting them in an awkward position.
Picking up your drink before they give it to you
This interrupts the presentation process and can be seen as rude. Bartenders take pride in their work and like to present the drink properly. Wait for the bartender to complete the drink and present it to you. It shows respect for their craft and effort.
Cleaning up broken glass
It’s dangerous for you to handle broken glass. Bartenders are trained to handle such situations safely. Inform the staff and let them clean it up safely and efficiently. This prevents any potential injuries and keeps everyone safe.
Itemizing and splitting a tab
Splitting a tab by individual drinks is overly complicated. It slows down the checkout process, especially during busy times. Have one person pay and settle up with friends later, or each person can open their own tab. This keeps things simple and efficient for everyone.
Stuffing napkins, straw wrappers, or other trash into your cup
This creates more work for the bartender. It can also make the cup harder to clean and recycle. Place trash in a pile on the table or find a trash can. Being considerate helps keep the bar clean and running smoothly.
Telling them your life story
Bartenders are busy and not there to be your therapist. They have many customers to attend to and limited time. Be friendly but respectful of their time and other patrons. A brief chat is fine, but keep it light and short.
Asking them out
Bartenders are not flirting; they are doing their job. They aim to create a friendly atmosphere, not to find dates. If you’re interested, leave your number on a napkin, but don’t press further. Respect their professional boundaries and let them reach out if they wish.
Reaching over or behind the bar to grab something quickly
This disrupts their workspace and hygiene. It can also be dangerous if you accidentally knock something over. Wait for them to assist you with your request. It’s safer and more respectful of their space.
Buying a round of drinks without knowing orders
Know everyone’s order before approaching the bar to avoid delays. This shows consideration for both the bartender and other patrons. It helps streamline the process and keeps the line moving. Being prepared makes the experience better for everyone.
Asking them to “surprise you” with a drink
Preferences are individual, and it puts pressure on the bartender. It can also lead to disappointment if you don’t like the drink. Give specific preferences or be ready to accept their choice without complaints. This makes it easier for the bartender to satisfy you.
Using beverage napkins to clean up a spill
Cocktail napkins are expensive. They are also not very absorbent. Inform a staff member, and they will handle it with appropriate cleaning supplies. This ensures the spill is cleaned up properly without wasting resources.
Handing them a wad of cash
This can lead to confusion and errors. It’s hard for bartenders to keep track of large amounts of cash quickly. Wait for the bartender to count and close the tab, then tip appropriately. This keeps transactions clear and straightforward.
Not bothering them with unrelated issues
Alert bartenders to safety concerns or emergencies immediately. They need to know about anything that could affect the safety of guests. Guest safety is a priority. For other issues, seek out the appropriate staff member to handle the situation.
Keeping things simple without a menu
Menus exist to inform you about options. They help streamline the ordering process. Use the menu to avoid making the bartender recite all available drinks, especially during busy times. This shows respect for their time and helps keep the bar running smoothly.
Hovering over the bar waiting for service
Standing too close can make it harder for the bartender to serve others. It can also create unnecessary pressure. Step back and wait your turn; they will get to you as soon as they can. This patience helps maintain a pleasant atmosphere.
Yelling to get their attention
Shouting is disruptive and rude. It can create a tense atmosphere. Make eye contact or raise your hand politely to signal you need service. This respectful approach is more effective and considerate.
Requesting complex drinks during a rush
Complicated orders can slow down service for everyone. It’s best to be mindful of the bar’s pace. Save specialty cocktails for less busy times or order simpler drinks when the bar is packed. This consideration helps everyone get their drinks faster.
Tapping your glass or bar counter
This can be annoying and disrespectful. It disrupts the bartender’s focus and workflow. Be patient and courteous while waiting for service. Your politeness will be appreciated and likely result in better service.
Asking for free drinks
Bartenders are there to work, not to give away free products. Their job is to sell drinks and provide good service. Pay for your drinks and tip well to show appreciation for good service. This supports their livelihood and respects their profession.
Switching seats frequently
Moving around can make it hard for the bartender to keep track of orders. It can also confuse servers and other patrons. Choose a seat and stick to it, especially during busy times. Stability helps keep the service organized and efficient.
Bringing outside food or drinks
This is generally against bar policies and can be seen as disrespectful. Bars rely on selling their own products to stay in business. Consume only what is offered by the establishment. Supporting the bar’s offerings helps keep them running.
Taking up multiple seats at a busy bar
Occupying more space than needed can be inconsiderate. It limits seating availability for other patrons. Be mindful of other patrons who may need a seat. Sharing space fairly ensures everyone has a chance to sit and enjoy.
Standing in the service area
This is where bartenders need space to work efficiently. It’s crucial for their workflow and safety. Stay out of marked areas to avoid getting in the way. Respecting these boundaries helps the staff serve everyone better.
Asking for extra garnishes excessively
Requesting multiple garnishes can slow down service. It adds extra work and can deplete their stock. Be reasonable with your requests and avoid overdoing it. Moderation helps keep things running smoothly.
Leaving without closing your tab
This creates extra work for the bartender. It can also cause confusion and delays. Always settle your bill before leaving the bar. This courtesy is crucial for smooth operations and accurate billing.
Giving vague drink orders
Specificity helps bartenders serve you better. Clear instructions lead to quicker and more accurate service. Know what you want or ask for recommendations with clear preferences. This makes the ordering process smoother and more enjoyable.
Touching the bartender
Physical contact can be uncomfortable and unprofessional. It’s important to maintain personal boundaries. Maintain a respectful distance and use verbal communication. This keeps interactions comfortable and respectful.
Using the bar as a phone charging station
This can be inconvenient for the bartender and other patrons. It can also clutter the bar space. Charge your phone elsewhere if possible. Keeping personal items off the bar helps maintain a clean and efficient workspace.
Expecting bartenders to mediate disputes
Bartenders are not security or referees. Their focus is on serving drinks and maintaining a pleasant environment. If there’s a problem, ask for the manager or security staff. This ensures issues are handled appropriately and efficiently.
Leaving a mess
Clean up after yourself as much as possible. This shows respect for the establishment and the staff working hard to serve you. It also makes the bar a more pleasant place for everyone. A little effort in tidiness goes a long way in maintaining a good atmosphere.
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