Remember dating as a teenager? You might have kissed a frog or two in that time, but, for the most part, things just slotted into place. You found your โperfect manโ and prepared to spend the rest of your life with him.
Except your โperfect manโ turned out not so perfect. Or maybe you just โ shocker โ got bored of one another.
โTill death do us partโ is a phrase that emerged in 1549 โ and letโs consider the significance of that.


In the 1940s, the average life expectancy was just over 60 years old. But thatโs the average life expectancy โ many people would die in their 40s or even 30s because medical technology just wasnโt what itโs like today.
That means that โTill death do us partโ technically meant 40 years, max โ but perhaps much less than that.
Itโs easy to see, then, why couples in their 40s or 50s may choose to break up.


Whatever your reason for finding yourself back in the dating sphere, you should definitely embrace your newfound freedom and be sure to have some fun.
Yep, things might seem a little scary, and you might have to brush up on your flirting skills if you havenโt used them for several decades, but youโre far more mature than your teenage years โ and that certainly helps.
Here are 6 rules to follow closely if youโre dating over 50:
1. Donโt Bond Over Your Baggage


It can be tempting to share the hurts of your past with the person youโre dating. Youโre probably both divorced, and itโs likely that youโve both been hurt.
Weโve all got a story โ but keep in mind that oversharing from your past may prevent you from having something special with a new guy going forward.
2. Donโt Call Him


In case you didnโt realize, men over 50 know exactly what theyโre doing in the dating game โ and they know exactly who they want, too. So for goodness sake, if a man doesnโt call you when he says heโs going to, donโt call him!
Donโt start the relationship off by chasing a man. If heโs not interested, brush your hurt aside and move on. Heโs not worth your time.
3. Donโt Have Sex


This might be rule number 3, but itโs definitely the big one on this list: donโt have sex unless youโre ready to have sex. And, for good measure, donโt have sex until youโve established what your relationship even means with your new partner.
Of course, this rule only applies if youโre looking for a serious relationship. If youโre both on board for a bit of โno strings attachedโ fun, then by all means get steamy in the bedroom whenever you feel like it.
4. Stop Being So Picky


The problem with todayโs online dating world is that we have so much choice that we feel we can afford to be as picky as we want. A word of advice, however: donโt shop for men like youโd shop for a home.
Your โdream manโ doesnโt exist โ sorry! All men have flaws, just like all women do. If youโre turned off because you donโt like the color of his tie or you found a sock on the floor in his apartment, youโll find it nearly impossible to meet your perfect match.
5. Flirt Like A Woman


There are so many ways that you can flirt with a man on a date, both verbally and non-verbally. Flirting turns a man on like nothing else โ plus, it shows youโre really confident, which is super sexy.
If youโve not flirted in a while, you may feel a little shy at the thought. But itโs something that youโll get used to over time. If all else fails, a glass of wine should ease you up a bit.
6. Let The Conversation Flow


โฆ but make sure you get a word in edgeways! Donโt allow a guy to ramble on and on. Itโs so frustrating for you, and heโll leave the date feeling like he knows nothing about you (and will probably wonder why!).
Donโt let a man run away with the show. Sometimes they donโt even realize theyโre dominating the conversation, so donโt be afraid to lean forward, put a hand on his arm and ask him politely if you can share your own story or two.
Remember, dating over 50 certainly isnโt easy, but being honest, authentic, and best of all, having fun, should see you well as you embark on this new, exciting stage of your life.


And remember โ donโt take yourself too seriously! At best, youโll find a wonderful new man to light up your life; at worst, youโll have a funny story to share with friends and family. There really is nothing to lose.
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