However, depending on how long you were with your partner or how many shared responsibilities you now have, splitting up doesn’t always mean never seeing that person again.
If there are kids in the mix, then both you and your partner still have a job to do.
This may seem surprising to some people and it was definitely surprising to Codie’s younger siblings.
According to Parenting Isn’t Easy, Codie said, “My mom has bad knees, and my stepdad works out of town. When my younger siblings questioned, ‘Why is your dad mowing mom’s lawn?’ I told them, ‘Because, she needed help, and he knew she couldn’t get out here to do it, so he did.'”
This is a great example of how to make divorced-parenting work.
And not only did her dad mow the lawn for her mom, but he did it while he was on vacation as well.
“My dad is with me in Texas on vacation. He doesn’t even live here where my mom lives,” Codie said. “So not only did he do something selflessly for her, he did it for her while he was on his VACATION. He wants everyone to know, ‘I’m no saint.’ He just wants to show others that you don’t need to act like an angelic pastor on Lent, but that we should all choose kindness whenever we can.”
And when it comes to raising kids while divorced, these small acts will go such a long way and make your complicated relationship that much easier to deal with.
Codie tells us that, “He said my mom and he decided when they were going through their divorce they would both choose to be adults and treat each other with respect and compassion, because no matter how their marriage ended, they both loved each other very much at one point, and that that love — counts for something. That if they were going to raise their children to be good, kind people, they needed to be good kind people.”
So whether or not you are dealing with all the trivialities that come with getting a divorce, just remember that helping others out when you can is always the right move.
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