The song goes: “Breaking up is hard to do,” but it might as well be “Growing up is hard to do.” When we were kids, we dreamed of growing up. Being an adult seemed like the coolest thing in the world. You didn’t have to answer to anybody and you could do whatever you wanted — or so we thought.

But at the price of not having a bedtime comes a host of other challenges. Sure, we can have cake for dinner and stay up all night. But we also have responsibilities, which are sometimes difficult and frightening. We have to pay bills, often while wondering if we’ll have enough money to do so. We have to go to work whether we want to or not…because we have to pay bills.

The hardest thing about all these responsibilities? We still feel like kids. Maybe we once thought that one day, we’d feel mature and confident. We’d know all the answers and how to act regardless of the situation. But the truth is, even as adults, we’re confused and unsure. We might be in our 20s, 30s, or even older, but we still don’t know what we want to be when we grow up.