60 introvert problems

If you’re an introvert, you’ve probably had your fair share of dumb questions thrown your way by an incomprehending extrovert. The misunderstanding usually arises from the assumption that introverts are incredibly shy, don’t like to talk, and spend all their time indoors alone. Really what an introvert means is that while they can spend time socializing, it is physically draining for them, and they need to recharge with time alone, while the opposite is true for extroverts. Keep spreading the word and bashing the myth, but in the meantime, enjoy these stupid questions to and reactions from introverts of the web.

#1 Why are you so quiet?

This goes at number one for a reason. Firstly, being quiet doesn’t mean you’re not enjoying yourself. Secondly, maybe there’s nothing to say. Thirdly, this.

#2 Everyone introduce themselves

There’s nothing worse than your first day in class. Oh wait, there is.

#3 Are you looking forward to the party?

If being around just a few people is exhausting for introverts, imagine being in a loud environment with at least 30. The best thing about that situation is leaving it.

#4 What are you doing this weekend?

You don’t have to have a full schedule to get excited. ‘Nothing’ is sometimes the best thing ever.

#5 Don’t you get bored?

Sitting at home on your own doing things YOU enjoy instead of things others enjoy is pure bliss. And if you can’t enjoy your own company, how are others supposed to?

#6 Is there something wrong?

Again, being quiet does not mean you’re unhappy, uncomfortable, annoyed, upset, or bored. You’re just being quiet.

#7 Can I join you?

Just because someone is sitting alone, doesn’t mean they’re lonely. You may have just ruined their day.

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#8 I invited more people, hope you don’t mind.

Hanging out with people already requires significant preparation. Adding to the number last minute may cause a medical emergency.

#9 Why don’t you come for drinks after work?

After spending eight hours of energy on small talk and awkward silences with people you don’t really know, the last thing you want is forced social interaction with alcohol.

#10 Shall I just call you?

One of the beauties of texting is the ability to take your time thinking about what to say, editing, and coming off witty, friendly, and endlessly charming. Calling just ruins all of that.

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#11 You don’t seem like an introvert!

One more time for the cheap seats in the back: introverts aren’t shy, socially awkward, and unable to make conversation.

#12 Why don’t you hang out at lunch?

An eight hour work day can be exhausting for an introvert. Let them have one hour of peace.

#13 I didn’t see you leave the party

Being at a party already requires maximum preparation and a full battery. Don’t expect a public goodbye too.

#14 Are you mad I cancelled?

More alone time doing whatever I want with no social pressure? You just made my day.

#15 Wanna hang out every night?

Going out just one night a week requires six nights of recharging, so how on earth do you expect this to work?

#16 Why do you seem so confident?

Introverts can talk to people just fine, thank you. It’s called practice and acting.

#17 Center of attention

When you’re spending all your energy just being around people, being the center of attention is STRESSFUL and to be avoided at all costs.

#18 What did you do over the weekend?

Introverts generally don’t go to parties and live it up after 40 hours of being around other people all week.

#19 Inane small talk

How is this interaction any better than just staying quiet?

#20 How are you?

There’s “how are you” when you mean it, and there’s “how are you” when you don’t. The latter is no better than silence and a simple waste of energy that could be spent alone with a book.

#21 Voice mail

Why couldn’t these seven people just text like a normal introvert?

#22 Knock at the door

It’s like calling someone on the phone, but even worse. There is no time to prepare.

#23 Why don’t you go in store?

The internet was invented for a reason. That reason was to avoid people whenever possible.

#24 Why don’t you just call them?

This is the equivalent of saying: why don’t you just stand up and give a speech right now?

#25 Why do you always text?

Texting involves no on-the-spot feeling. Plus, you can be alone when you do it.

#26 How are you doing?

This can be a challenging one for introverts. Are you supposed give the honest answer or just an inane, repetitive one that means nothing?

#27 Tell me something about yourself

If you’ve ever been put on the spot and felt your mind go completely blank, you’ll know why this one is not great. If you want to know them, just get to know them.

#28 Why don’t you come out of your shell?

‘Coming out of your shell’ doesn’t mean being loud and talkative all of the time. And saying this to someone hardly helps, either.

#29 But what do you do for fun?

Slow clap for the person realizing that hobbies can be quiet ones too. Not everyone’s definition of fun involves adrenaline-inducing activities.

#30 Are you okay?

You’ve been quiet for well over five minutes, something must be wrong! I’ll ask a few more times, that should help, too.

#31 How can you see a movie alone?

Seeing a movie alone doesn’t mean you’re sad or single, you just like your own company. Isn’t that awesome?

#32 Could you just call…?

It would actually save a lot more time for you to just do that yourself. The prep time alone is more than the whole favor is worth.

#33 Want to hang out AGAIN?

Short answer: no. Long answer: it takes a significant amount of time recharging alone to just go out once and I don’t think I have the time or energy to do it so soon after.

#34 Do you just not talk to people?

Social interactions are a necessity of today’s world. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you just don’t speak at all.

#35 What do you want to do?

This is just wayyyy too much pressure. If you wanted to hang out, YOU should’ve had a plan.

#36 Why do you always wear headphones?

Small talk, seeing people I know, strangers talking to me, being asked random questions, being bothered in general.

#37 Lying to get out of meet ups

If I say I can’t make it for x reason, don’t call and check up on me, I was probably lying.

#38 Can we reschedule?

Yes, always, absolutely, yes and forever YES. You just did me a favor if anything, don’t feel bad.

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#39 Why don’t you answer your phone?

If it they really wanted an answer, they’d just text like a normal human being. That’s what all those damn apps were invented for.

#40 You’re just shy, right?

Nope. Introverts can be as chatty and charming at social gatherings as any extrovert, they just can’t do it all the time.

#41 Are you mad I invited someone else?

The plans for the agreed social interaction were very clearly stated. Now you’ve gone and changed them.

#42 How come you’re fine at work?

Being in an office full of people you’re forced to interact with isn’t great, but you’re getting paid. Being straight up weird and rude probably would result in unemployment pretty quickly.

#43 Can I help you?

Not only is this the threat of small talk, but of trying to sell you something. It’s better to just leave the store empty-handed than ask.

#44 Just be yourself

If you want authenticity, just don’t call ever. That’s not how I usually communicate best.

#45 So you’re basically a loner then?

If it’ll get you to leave me alone, then yes.

#46 Do you have any questions?

I think we can all guess the answer to this one.

#47 Want to Skype quickly?

Just when you thought there was nothing worse than a “quick phone call”, videos get involved.

#48 Want to go to a party?

Possibly one of the worst questions to ask an introvert. Even if they say yes – on the spot, under pressure – you should 100% expect awkward cancellation later.

#49 Awkward run-ins

Not only is there dreaded small talk to endure, but who can really say how long you’re supposed to linger? How long?!

#50 Battery dying

If it’s been a long day of socializing, you might suddenly feel that urge to run home and surround yourself in blankets and nothingness.

#51 No plans? That’s not a pity.

Doing ‘nothing’ this weekend? Sounds like bliss.

#52 Medical emergency

Let’s take a minute for all those introverted medical professionals out there, silently hoping they’re never needed in any outside-of-work situation.

#53 Being forced to socialize

This probably means 100% of introverts will be taking the stairs or calling in sick on this day.

#54 Avoiding encounters at all costs

It sounds extreme, but imagine not just bumping into someone once, but on every other aisle every few minutes? Either play hide and seek in the store, or just go someplace else.

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#55 Hiding from a delivery

Sometimes you just don’t want to deal with people. And sometimes that means hiding in place for several minutes until the danger has passed.

#56 Mall kiosk danger

It’s only safe to peruse if they are deep in conversation with another customer and it doesn’t look like they’ll be free anytime soon.

#57 Who wants a study party?

This is a pretty ingenious method. Introverts, take note.

#58 IT’S NOT MY BIRTHDAY

There is no worse crowd of people knowing it’s your birthday than your work friends. Especially if you’re out.

#59 Pastimes of an introvert

Sometimes that Netflix message seems a little judgey, doesn’t it?

#60 Introvert heaven

And lastly, the one place all introverts are truly happiest.

If you relate to any or all of these, then it’s likely you’re an introvert too. But don’t worry, you’ve found your people! Now stay at home at talk to no one where it’s safe.

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