There are some major differences between big city living and quiet country lifestyles, and you only really start to notice those differences when you move from one place to the other.
Anyone who has ever grown up somewhere quiet and rural and then headed off to the city will know that it can be quite an adventure, with a lot of surprises in store each and every day.
Here are 60 things every small town person experiences when they pack their bags and try something different.
1) Feeling A Little Like A Movie Star
People who are born and raised in big cities walk around like it’s all so boring and natural to them, but for small town folks, strolling down a busy sidewalk with towering skyscrapers and historic monuments all around can feel just like they stepped into the movies!
2) Everything Is Open
In small towns, local shops and businesses often close down in the afternoon, and it can be hard to find almost anything open after 5 or 6pm. In big cities, nothing ever seems to close! Lights stay on and doors stay open non-stop, all through the night, and you never need to worry about having to rush somewhere before closing time.
3) Discovering New Things All The Time
If you grow up in a small town, you pretty much know the whole place like the back of your hand by the time you’re in high school. You know every street, every building, every hangout spot. But in a big city, you can live there for years and still find new things when turning down little alleys and side streets.
4) Seeing Fashionable People All Around You
In small towns, most people don’t tend to worry too much about rocking the latest fashion trends or keeping up with the catwalk looks, but in big cities, you can walk down any downtown street and see model-like people all around you. It’s enough to make anyone feel a little self-conscious about their outfit.
5) Big Differences In Rent
One of the toughest things any big city dweller has to accept is that rent is always going to be a whole lot higher than it would be out in the sticks. In a small town, you can get a whole house with a yard for the same price as a tiny studio apartment in the city.
6) Noticing How Little People Care
In a small town, where everybody knows everybody else, there can be a whole lot of judgment. People gossip and talk about the locals because they often don’t have much else to do, but in a big city, you could walk down the street half naked or start yelling out of your apartment window and most people would barely even raise their heads.
7) Not Having To Plan City Trips Anymore
When you live in a small town, going to the big city can feel like quite a big event. It’s something you plan in advance, preparing the trip with your friends, thinking about what you might do with the day, like clothes shopping or seeing a movie that isn’t screening at your local theater. In big cities, everything you need is right on your doorstep.
8) People With Higher Expectations And Big Ambitions
This one isn’t universal, but in general, you’ll find that big city people tend to have different expectations and aspirations for their lives. Take education as an example. In a small town, many people are happy just to graduate college and get a job with a local business. In big cities, most young people are aiming to get to a good college and build themselves a career.
9) It’s Actually Possible To See Celebrities
Out in the sticks, the idea of your favorite band heading to town to play a concert or a big movie star stopping by for a premier is simply ridiculous, but in big cities, it always seems like at least one famous person is in the area for some kind of event.
10) People Rushing Absolutely Everywhere
As soon as you move to a big city after years spent in a small town, you instantly notice just how busy people seem to be! They get mad at the slightest delay and seem to need to rush everywhere they go. It’s such a fast pace of life and you can’t help wanting to tell everybody to chill out and take it easy once in a while.
11) Learning That City Folk Can Be Friendly Too
Everyone always told you that city folk are quite rude, arrogant, and obnoxious, not like all those friendly and warm small towners you’re used to, but when you get to the big city and start to notice people smiling and being polite, it’s a really nice feeling! Of course, not everyone is ready to be your best friend, but you might be surprised to see how nice people can be.
12) So Many Fests
If you grew up in a rural community, the only ‘fest’ you probably ever went to was an Applefest at the local orchard. In big cities, there are major festivals and exciting events going on all the time.
13) You Actually Have To Start Managing Money
With all those festivals, events, concerts, shows, movies, restaurants, stores, and more all around you in big cities, it suddenly becomes so much more important to think carefully about your budget and spend wisely.
14) So Much More Diversity
Little towns aren’t exactly known for being the most diverse places around, but when you arrive in a big city, you might just be blown away by the vast array of people all around you. The average city street is filled with people from all walks of life, and this is a big part of what makes city-living so fun.
15) Getting An Accent
This one is pretty specific, but if you’ve been living out in the sticks and suddenly move to somewhere like New York, you’ll be surprised how quickly you start to pick up the accent and talk like one of the locals! You probably don’t even notice it happening until you call your parents and they don’t recognize your voice.
16) Feeling Homesick
Let’s be honest, even if you absolutely love your new big city environment, it’s totally natural to miss your home from time to time. The lifestyle is simply so different, it’s impossible not to miss certain things or feel a little desire to wake up somewhere quiet once in a while.
17) Your Phone Becomes Even More Important
Out in small towns, phones are important, just like anywhere else, but they become way more vital when you get to a big city! Suddenly, you find yourself using Google Maps to get around, Yelp to learn about the best places to eat, Uber to get to the airport, and a thousand other apps in day to day life.
18) Elevators Everywhere
Buildings in small cities tend to pretty small. There’s so much space, after all, so the whole concept of ‘building vertically’ doesn’t really apply. In big cities, however, it seems like you can’t go through a single day without spending several minutes standing around in an elevator, enduring the awkward silence with everyone else.
19) The Cost Of Everything
It’s only when you move to a big city from a small town that you start to realize just how good you had it in terms of buying things. Whether you’re buying groceries or visiting a bowling alley, prices in small towns tend to be way cheaper than the big cities.
20) Everyone Wants To Stay Over
Living in a big city is one of the most effective ways to reconnect with people from your past, including the ones you aren’t all that interested in reconnecting with! When they find out that you’re in the big city, they all suddenly start messaging you, asking to meet up, see what your place is like, and even spend the night on your sofa.
21) The Noise
Remember when you used to wake up to the sound of birdsong or even got annoyed at one particularly noisy car driving down your street? Well, try living in the big city, where sirens, horns, shouting, and traffic are the soundtrack every single second of the day.
22) So Many Restaurants
Small towns can often have a nice diner or two, and maybe you worry you might miss the local burgers and shakes when you move to the big city. Then you get there and see a dozen different restaurants right on your street, with hundreds more just around the corner. The choice of food for city-dwellers is simply insane!
23) The Perils Of Public Restrooms
Public restrooms are everywhere in big cities, and that can be pretty convenient. When you gotta go, you gotta go! But new arrivals in big cities quickly learn that most public bathrooms are pretty uninviting places!
24) Hygiene Starts To Matter A Whole Lot More
As well as the dirty public bathrooms, big cities can often make you think about dirt and germs way more in general, and if you want to stay healthy and avoid catching colds and other illnesses every time you go out, you have to start taking hygiene way more seriously. Every experienced big city dweller always has a little bottle of hand sanitizer in their purse or pocket.
25) So Many Clothes
Out in small towns, you’re lucky to find a single clothes store, let alone one with fifteen floors and its own cafe! Shopping for clothing becomes way more fun in big cities, but it can be a little overwhelming at first as well.
26) Not Knowing Your Neighbors
In small towns, everyone tends to know everyone else. This is especially true of neighbors, who will often knock on your door to say hello, wave to you in the street, and even invite you over for barbecues now and then. In big cities, however, it’s not uncommon to never even learn your neighbors’ names!
27) Being Happy To Do Nothing
When you grow up in a small town, you can yearn for the thrills and spills of big city life, wishing that your day-to-day routine was more exciting and easily getting bored of doing the same old things. But in a big city, you start to appreciate those little moments when you can just sit down and relax for a while because the rest of your life seems so hectic.
28) You Start Seeing Actual Tourists
You can walk down the streets of big cities and hear people speaking all kinds of languages and snapping photos of the buildings and monuments all around you. While this might be normal for folks who have always lived in the city, it’s quite a culture shock for small town folks!
29) People Watching Becomes A Fun Way To Pass The Time
With so many different people all around you, it can be fun to just sit in a coffee shop and watch the world go by, admiring all the different looks and styles of everyone else and wondering what they might be doing with their lives and where they’re all rushing off to.
30) Grocery Shopping Is So Different
Small towners tend to just have one local, family grocery store. The kind of place where everybody knows your name and folks start emptying the shelves and stockpiling when they hear about a storm on the way. In the city, it’s oh so different! There are stores everywhere and so much more choice than you’ve been used to back home.
31) Forgetting What Fresh Air Feels Like
For all the positives of living in a big city, there are certainly some drawbacks! In a small town, you can step outside at any time of day, breathing in the fresh air, enjoying the peace and quiet, and maybe strolling around the neighborhood or taking your dog for a walk. In a city, the air never feels quite as fresh and all the noise can make it hard to enjoy being outdoors.
32) And Forgetting What Nature Looks Like Too
Sure, big cities often have nice parks, but it’s not quite the same as the wilderness and forests you used to walk around and explore as a kid back in your small town home.
33) Saying Goodbye To The Stars
Small town people are used to seeing the stars at night. It’s just a normal part of life for them. So it can be a little alienating to arrive in a big city, with all those neon lights and flashing signs making it impossible to ever see the stars at night.
34) Crime Gets Serious
In small towns, it’s not uncommon to hear about the cops being called because a raccoon got into someone’s garage or a local kid stole a candy bar from the store, but in big cities, crime really goes to the next level! It can be quite scary to adapt to this, especially if you’re used to a pretty peaceful existence.
35) People Don’t Know You
It’s quite a weird feeling for small town folks to arrive in a big city and enjoy the freedom of walking around without everyone knowing their name, their life story, and all the gossip about their family! In cities, you just blend into the crowd like everyone else.
36) Directions Become Way More Complicated
Going to a party in a small town? Sure, just take a left at the big tree and head past the diner, you can’t miss it. Going to a party in a big city? You probably need to take three different subway lines just to get near it!
37) Crossing The Street Becomes A Big Deal
Not only is it more complicated to get from one place to another, but even the simple act of getting to the other side of the street can feel like a big thing. Many small towns don’t even have crosswalk signals, so arriving in a big city and discovering that you suddenly need to pay attention when crossing the street can feel quite weird.
38) Having So Many More People To Date
A bit of an issue with small town life is that you’re a little limited in terms of who you can date. In fact, it can almost reach a point where you feel like you’ve dated every viable guy or girl in town and have no other options left. In big cities, you’ll never run out of dating options until you find the perfect person.
39) Watching People Treat Organic Food Like A Fad
If you grew up in a small town with its own market and nearby farms selling their fresh fruits and veggies to the locals, eating organic produce is just a regular part of day to day life for you. That’s why it can seem so strange (and a little funny) when you get to a big city and see folks acting like ordering an organic salad is some kind of trendy lifestyle choice.
40) Trying To Tell People Where You’re From
It’s always a little awkward when someone asks when you’re from and you know there’s no way they’re going to recognize the name of your tiny hometown. Eventually, you just have to give in and tell them you’re from the middle of nowhere.
41) Learning What True Traffic Is All About
You thought it was bad in your small town when you got stuck behind a local farmer in his tractor? Try driving in a big city with a million people all rushing to get to work each morning. Then you’ll know what traffic really feels like.
42) Never Having A Quiet Day
People who grow up in small towns often complain that nothing ever happens and life is pretty boring for them. Then they get to big cities and see that something crazy seems to happen every single day! Whether it’s a protest, a parade, some random guy singing in the park, or twenty cop cars blazing down the street, there’s always something to see when you step outside and stories you can tell about your day.
43) Lines For Everything
When you get to the big city, you’d better get used to waiting in line! You’ll wait for everything, from grabbing a coffee to paying for your groceries.
44) Discovering Whole New Forms Of Fun
Small towns might have a movie theater, a park, a bowling alley, a diner, and that’s about it. So when you arrive in a big city and see so many more ways to spend your free time, it can feel quite overwhelming! From escape rooms to comedy clubs, big cities definitely offer a lot of options to occupy your evenings. It’s basically impossible to be bored.
45) Figuring Out What To Wear
Adapting to city life is filled with so many little challenges you might never have expected, including knowing what to wear for every single occasion. You need the right outfit for work, formal get-togethers, social gatherings with your buddies, and everything else in between. It’s not like back home where you can rock a simple shirt and jeans look everywhere you go.
46) Feeling Like A Small Fish In A Big Pond
One of the biggest changes for small towners to deal with when they arrive in a big city is coping with the feeling of suddenly being anonymous, surrounded by hundreds of thousands of other people, and totally feeling like a teeny tiny little fish in a very, very big pond. It can be liberating in a way, but it’s also a little scary!
47) Way More Job Opportunities
Another simple fact of big city life is that you get far more job opportunities than you would in a small town. Big cities have countless businesses all around, with thousands of jobs waiting to be taken at any one time. In a smaller place, it can feel like your options are way more limited.
48) Neon Lights On Every Street
It’s only when you move to a big city from a small town that you start to notice just how many lights those places have. Every street, every store, every bar, and every building seems to be decorated with bright lights.
49) People Aren’t So Receptive To Your Friendliness
Out in a small town, you often get taught that it’s polite to say hi to folks in the street while walking your dog or to smile at strangers when you’re out and about. People in big cities, however, might look at you a little weird if you do things like this. They mostly just want to be left alone.
50) Trying To Follow The Public Transport Rules
This one is always tricky, even for folks who have been living in big cities for a little while. Are you supposed to stand on the left or the right of the escalator? With all the commotion and crowds, it can be hard to remember!
51) Not Having To Improvise
If you’re in a small town and need something specific, you often find that the local stores don’t have the exact item you need, and it’s not like you can just shop around and find it somewhere else because the town only has a couple of stores in the first place! So you improvise. You make it work with whatever you can find. In big cities, with so many stores and options, you never need to worry.
52) Feeling Safe For Totally Different Reasons
In a small town, you tend to feel safe because you know the local people and, most of the time, there’s nobody around anyway to make you feel nervous. In big cities, it’s the total opposite! You don’t know most people and there are lots of them around all the time, in every street and store, even at night, yet you still feel safe as part of the crowd.
53) Walking Everywhere
To get around a small town, you have to use a car or maybe a bike, but in big cities, it’s surprising how far you can go on your own two feet and just how efficient it is to walk. Even with buses and subways, you soon find yourself walking most places as it just seems faster and simpler. Plus it helps you stay fit!
54) So Many Ways To Stay In Shape
Cities seem to have a million different places all dedicated to helping you get in the best possible shape of your life. Back in your small town, people ‘work out’ by riding their bikes or playing football with friends. In big cities, you’ve got yoga, Pilates, CrossFit, spin classes, and so much more. You can even see people working out in public parks, without a care in the world.
55) Realizing That You No Longer Need To Drive
In small towns, you pretty much have to have a car if you want to get anywhere interesting, but big cities have such good public transport systems like buses and subways, you soon realize that owning a car is just a pointless expense. Plus, it’s impossible to park in those places anyway.
56) Becoming More Independent
If you want to make yourself more independent, moving to a big city is a great way to start. Small towns are homely and comfortable. If something bad happens to one of the locals, people will usually rally together, offering their support and helping out however they can. In a big city, nobody has really got your back. It’s up to you to survive and thrive!
57) It’s Not Exactly Like You Imagined
If you grew up in a small town, your only real experience of big city life would be from TV shows and movies. So you tend to build up an idea in your mind of what it might be like, but the truth is that nothing can really prepare you for the realities and surprises of city-living.
58) Not Bumping Into People You Know All The Time
Living in a small town means you constantly seem to be meeting folks you know. In fact, it’s pretty rare to leave the house and not see at least one or two familiar faces. In the big city, that sort of thing just doesn’t seem to happen, and if you do somehow bump into someone you know, it feels like a really big deal and you usually decide to grab some coffee together to celebrate.
59) Becoming An Angry Driver
We pointed out earlier on that you don’t really need a car in a big city, but if you do choose to drive, you suddenly notice yourself becoming a whole lot angrier as you have to deal with ten times as many bad drivers and way more traffic than ever before.
60) Having So Many Hang Out Spots To Choose From
Back in your small town, you always had that one spot everyone used to go to for dates, meeting friends, or just lazy Sunday afternoons. Maybe it was the town park or the local movie theater. In big cities, however, you have a million different hang out spots and it can be hard to decide which one you want to go to on any given day!
So, if you’ve grown up in a small town all your life and are planning to make the move to the big city, get ready for all of the things on this list and more! And if you’re a big city dweller considering a move somewhere quieter, just remember to consider how different your life may become.
In the end, there are advantages and disadvantages to both big cities and small towns, and it’s worth experiencing both styles of life, at least for a little while, to see which one you like best.