A good number of people use the services that therapists have to offer. Over time they usually manage to hear some good advice and that which works for them in their present circumstances. Sometimes something the therapist says is so powerful that it can change the life of the person hearing it. They are lessons learned that some have passed onto others who may be in need of such advice. Here there is a collection of fifty examples of what people have passed along. It may be very beneficial to some who cannot afford or do not want to pay for this type of advice.
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1)Document Your Thoughts
Some therapists recommend writing your thoughts down. It serves a few purposes. Such as helping to get your thoughts in order. It also helps to relieve some of the frustration that can come when a person has too much on their mind.
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2) Realism
Often people are told to count their blessings and to think that other people are worse off then them. One therapist says that doesn’t take away from the fact that this person is also suffering and that counts too.
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3) Turning a Negative Into A Positive
It is easy to get wrapped up in negative thoughts. If these can be pondered upon to see if there is something positive
that can be taken from it, then it reduces the stress that comes with the negativity. Sometimes a solution for a problem can be found by
doing this.
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4)Outside Of The Box
When a person tends to talk negatively towards someone else they need to stop and think. What if those same words were being said to one of their children. How would they feel?
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5)Leisurely Strolls
Taking relaxed walks means a change of environment which can be as good as a rest. It also allows for uninterrupted thinking. It can help to just clear the head while providing some exercise which can be good for relieving tension.
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6) Switch Up
Instead of using the word should rephrase the thought to as how it will feel if you were to do that specific thing. For example, I should do the dishes this could be changed to “The kitchen will look great when the dishes are done.”
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7)List Whose Got Your Back
Sometimes it is hard to be able to discern who your real friends are. Or sometimes they are forgotten about. Simply sitting down and writing a list of whose these people are can provide some mental strengthening.
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8)Cut Yourself Some Slack
One suggestion is not to be too hard on yourself. There may be a lot of things you don’t know as yet concerning a situation and you are already blaming yourself.
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9) The Offset Strategy
There are those that may rephrase this and call it count your blessings. It is a technique to take one positive thought and offset it with two good ones. Do this enough times and the list will show that there are a lot more good things happening in your life compared to the bad.
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10)Recognition
Come to grips with the fact that what may have helped you cope in a bad environment as a child may not be the coping mechanism that you need now. You need to recognize that you may need to discover other resources.
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11) The Feel Good Arsenal
Many people when they get down try to find something that they enjoy to do. Rather than wait for that particular moment make a list of all the things that make you feel good. Then when you are having a rought time pull out this list and choose something from it.
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12) The Right Honesty
It is often said that honesty is the best policy. However, it is better to be kind with honesty as well as being tactful.
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13) What’s Next?
Sometimes being in the moment can seem bleak and dark. Think about what happens next when this episode of what you are going through has passed. It may give you some light at the end of the tunnel. Or at least get you to realize that this too
shall pass.
14) I Wish Syndrome
Some people spend a lot of time thinking about how things would be different if they had done things differently. However, they didn’t so they must live in the here and now and work with the choices they did make.
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15) The negative stimulants
For those who enjoy alcohol, they may find that they are consuming too much of it and for some people, this can put them in a dark mood where they become fixated on their troubles. Cutting back on alcohol consumption can reduce the number of dark moments if a person who drinks is predisposed to these.
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16) The Right Resources
Everyone needs resources that they can use to help them cope. The important factor here is
choosing the right ones. For example, there are choices to use drugs or alcohol or going with healthy choices like activities.
and exercise.
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17) The Bedtime Routine
Some individuals when they are upset or disturbed about something find that it may be hard to sleep. Those who have a regular bedtime routine will find that they don’t struggle with this as much. It is because the body is used to the routine and will demand it.
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18) Accepting Change
Some partners complain that their partner has changed over the years but they themselves have not. One therapist suggested that this person who has not changed has not grown.
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19) Shed The Self Centered Attitude
There are those who get so wrapped up in their own problems that they tend not to think about anybody’
else. Sometimes shifting the thoughts off of one’s self can be a good form of therapy.
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20) Inside You
There is a belief that everyone still has an inner child within them. Some therapists advocate listening to the wants and needs of this inner child when a person is having problems coping.
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21) What You Don’t Own
Sometimes people are in a circumstance that they have no control over. Even though it is affecting their life they don’t own the circumstance. They cannot hang onto this but have to learn to let go of it.
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22) Two-Sided Imagination
If an individual can imagine the worst possible things that can happen to them,
then they also have to ability to imagine the best possible outcomes.
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23) Set Personal Boundaries
Some individuals do not set boundaries for themselves in regards to what they will accept or what they will let happen to them in life. Setting boundaries allows the person to know when these have been crossed and to prevent this from happening.
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24)The Right Choices
If you are going to open up to someone about your feelings then make sure it is the
right person. Not someone that is going to put you down. But someone that is going to listen and not judge you.
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25) Don’t Be Afraid To Share
It is okay to keep personal things private but there are times when people need to vent. They need someone that they can trust with who they can share their story with. This is referred to by some as venting.
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26) Your Own Schedule
One therapist advised a client that they don’t have to live by society’s schedule that they are capable of setting their own schedule that works for them.
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27) What If
When a person is in a slump they are often thinking about the what ifs. What if they had done something different for example. This can be turned around by thinking “what if” I do this or that now in a positive approach. It can take a negative and soon turn
it into a positive.
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28) Beads Of Experience
One person said they consider their experiences to each be a bead that is compiled into a necklace as acollection of those experiences. But the thread that the beads are mounted on is the real person as the thread is what holds that necklace together.
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29)Envy To A Fault
Being happy with what a person has can be difficult for a lot of people. They tend to focus on what other people have and neglect thinking about what they themselves have. They are never happy because they crave what the other person has,
and it will never be enough.
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30) Acknowledgment
When a person is hurt by someone else that person doesn’t have to acknowledge that they caused pain for it to be real. The recipient of the pain can validate the hurt they feel, they don’t need the other person to do this.
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31) The Rock
There are a select number of people who are always the strong one and always seem to have the answers. Quiteoften some of these individuals are using this as a camouflage so they won’t have to open up about their own feelings and problems.
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32) An Apology
It is important for people to realize that when a person who has hurt them gives excuses as to why they did this, that this is not an apology.
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33) Feeling It
It is perfectly okay to feel emotions such as anger, frustrations, annoyance, and sadness and many other negative feelings. At the same time, some thought should be given to as why these emotions are being felt.
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34) Not Always Right
No matter how hard you strive to do things right there will be times when things willstill go wrong. Realizing this makes it easier when this does happen.
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35) Just The Way It is
There are times whee acceptance has to be put into practice. There are some things that people do not have the power to change. In these circumstances then the situation must be accepted for just the way it is.
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36) Being Happy
Some who suffer from anxiety and sadness believe they will never be happy. They need to realize that happy people are not happy all of the time. That they too have their ups and downs.
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37) Thought Interruptions
When negative thoughts are taking over the thought process then attacking these with some positive scenarios. For example, if an individual is down about losing their job, then replace this with the thought of what if I get a great job that pays
more money.
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38) A Closed Chapter
Some people stay in a relationship because they have been in it so long. Some therapists advocate ending the relationship if it has become toxic.
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39) Action Vs Words
One piece of advice given is that when words are no longer effective then what action can be taken to rectify a situation for the better
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40) When Love Is Not Enough
For some that are in a relationship, love may not be enough and it is okay to acknowledge this so they can move on to discover what it is that they do need.
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41)Getting Messy
One therapist told an individual that its okay for things to get messy sometimes. That when something becomes too hard it is because the person is trying too hard. Just let it be for a time.
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42) Enough Is Enough
There are just some people who prefer to be miserable so it may come a time where another
individual has to stop trying to make them happy
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43)Mr. Perfect
One person used to worry all the time that if she found Mr. Perfect that she would drive him away with her flaws and insecurities. Her therapist told her that if that was the case, then he wasn’t Mr. Perfect.
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44) The Breakdown
The best way to tackle a problem is to break it down into small pieces and deal with it in
segments. Everything we do in life is made up of multiple steps.
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45) Timing
Choose the right time to make big decisions. When a person is dealing with stress or anxiety this is not the right time to make important decisions.
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46) Simple Acceptance
Instead of trying to work against who you are, embrace who you are work towards the betterment of you.
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47) Like Or Dislike
People often stress out when they are meeting new people as to whether those people will like them or not. A better approach is to think about whether or not you will like them.
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48) Moving On
When a relationship has gone sour some people become consumed with hurt and anger. It is not until they let go of this that they are able to move on.
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49) Re-Connect
There are times when hurtful memories from the past may surface. When this happens then re-connect to what is good in your life at the moment. Replace the old with the new.
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50) The Dismissal
Some people have thoughts that come so fast they begin to feel overwhelmed. One therapist
suggests dealing with one thought at a time then dismissing it so the person can move onto the next.
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