As an adult, you’ll need to make decisions that will determine how you’ll live your life. Growing up without emotionally available parents, it’s possible for you to turn up as an adult who’s having a hard time trusting your own instincts. There’s always the fear of making mistakes in your choices.

No matter how sweet, caring, and loving your partner is, you will always feel that it will just be a matter of time before he leaves you. Because of that, you always tend to stop yourself from giving your all in relationships and loving too deeply. You’re afraid that getting too attached will just hurt you.

If you find your mind full of negative comments, you’re probably reflecting what your parents might be telling you when you were young. Hearing your parents vent out the negative feelings they have about themselves can cause your self-esteem to go down.

Abuse and neglect would trigger your natural instict to protect yourself. So, if you feel that a person is getting too connected with you, your tendency is to make your skin so thick to the point that he can’t reach you.

You want everything to be in order because you hate losing control. Whether it’s a simple conversation, a new relationship or a new job, you want to nitpick every single detail.

Your parents’ emotional detachment forced you to do everything you can to get their attention as a child. And now that you’re an adult, you completely ignore your own needs and problems just to make sure that you fix other people’s problems. You try to please others even if you’re hurting yourself.

You cry too much and you get offended at the simplest remarks. Even if your friends are only stating a fact, you get hurt and feel wronged.

No matter how much reassurance you get from your partner or even a friend, you don’t feel confident that they will stay by your side. You’re always scared of being abandoned and left out.

Growing up not seeing your parents clean after you or your siblings, you’ll find yourself tidying up other people’s places while during your stay. You are always offering to help with the household chores, often volunteering to do tasks that guests wouldn’t even think about.

You’re always trying to get ahead of everything in your life. You always think about the next wrong thing that can happen or your next decision you’ll be disappointed in.

Being raised by an emotionally fragile parent can cause you to avoid blowing things up. You constantly apologize for things that are simply normal, such as expressing your opinion or even standing up for yourself.

You always feel like no matter what you, it’s never good enough. You feel like you have no value and that you can’t be loved.

If you find someone being truly nice to you, it makes you think what they might be actually thinking of doing to you. There’s always the idea that people have an ulterior motive for behaving in a certain way.

You’re jumpy. Whenever someone comes up to you from behind, you get scared. It’s like your flight-or-fight response is always ready to kick in.

You find it difficult to talk about how you are feeling because you believe that no one really cares about you. You don’t open up because you think that no one would listen to you.

When your nerves are bad and your anxiety is high, you’ll find yourself dealing with nausea and vomiting frequently. It feels like there’s always something wrong with your gut.

You are comfortable with doing things for yourself. You work hard to provide for yourself and you like to do things alone, whether you’re at home or at work.

You like hearing how your partner loves you and you’re always looking for affirmations. When you don’t hear those reassurances and affirmations, you start to think that there’s something wrong.

You feel detach from everything and everyone around you. No matter what you do, there’s always that hole in your life you can’t seem to fill.

As much as possible, you don’t like other people to see your cry. You don’t want to inconvenience them so you try to hide your meltdowns and sorrows. When you are sure that you’re alone, that’s the only time you let your emotions take over you.

You find it hard to make demands whenever you are in a relationship. You always try to just understand your partner and not ask for any compromise.

You don’t like being close to people and you don’t like the idea of being touched. Growing up without a strong bond from both of your parents can make you find affection intimidating.

Being depressed and frustrated all the time, you try to find ways to keep yourself at ease. You hoard food and buy tons of things you don’t really need. You try to distract yourself with material things.

Although you know that you grew up with your parents, you find it hard to recall times when they were actually with you, particularly during the most important times in your life.

While having a lot of friends may sound like a good thing, it’s not always like that. When you call a lot of people as friends without really knowing what friendship is, then you probably don’t mean it.

After work, you prefer to just go home because you either feel so drained or you just don’t know how to socialize. Being around tons of people makes you feel uncomfortable to the point that you would just lock yourself at home.

Even if you try to interact with people, you try to keep everyone outside of your inner circle. You try to detach yourself to anyone.

When you feel upset, you feel unsure about what you need to do to make yourself feel better. When a friend reaches out to you with a problem, you feel really awkward.

You find yourself always feeling irritable. You snap easily at others. These are signs that you’re not fully aware of where your emotions are coming from. You’re simply venting your frustrations on other people.

You feel that you are too weak or flawed to be loved and accepted by others. So, you try your best to hide the true you.