Dating is hard. Those of us who are married don’t miss it, and those of us who are still doing it rarely enjoy it. It can be incredibly difficult to meet nice people.

The rise of social media dating has made things even more complicated. Even if you’ve never been on a Tinder date yourself, you probably know their reputation.

As for restaurant servers, they get to be on the front lines of all of it. They hear everything, even when you think they’re not listening. They can’t help overhearing things when they come to refill your water glass. And you better believe they have opinions about everything — from how your date is going to what will happen to the two of you in the future.

They hear some really sweet things, and even get to help out with proposals. But they also witness some truly painful and awkward moments. They might be professionals, but they definitely cringe — and gossip about you — when they go back to the kitchen.

Here are 75 servers who took to social media to share the stories of the worst date disasters they’ve ever seen. Can you make it without cringing?

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